Today is a holiday invented by greeting card companies to make people feel like crap.
Right on. I am not a cynic but Valentine’s Day is an unnecessary festival to celebrate the death of a martyr whose, according to wikipedia, acts are only known to God. (Does anyone still remember Valentine’s Day is actually for a Saint anyways? We are too busy eating chocolates and buying expensive flowers to care about that!)
Watching Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind the day after Valentine’s Day was not intentional, but in retrospect, it is actually quite fitting. When love has turned a wrong corner, how do you fix it?
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind is simply mind-blowing. The way it is filmed and edited is very innovative. For the majority of the movie, we explore the memories of Clementine Kruczynski (Kate Winslett) inside Joel Barish’s (Jim Carrey) mind because Joel is trying to get a procedure done where the memory of their romantic relationship can be erased forever. One might find it confusing for the first part of the movie, but it becomes quite clear what the director is trying to do when you get to the end. Needless to say, Kate Winslet and Jim Carrey have done an extraordinary job as the two leading characters that are completely different yet equally compelling. Although the idea of erasing memories has long been a popular topic among movies, I have never imagined how it would actually be like if such memory-erasing clinics existed. Erasing memories may be as simple as doing a procedure, cracking up your brain and on the technician side, it might just take a press of a button, but even when the memory of a bad break up is deleted in your brain, how do you get rid of that person in your heart? There are no procedure that deletes the memory of the heart, and sure you can’t cut off one piece of your heart out. So, what do you do?
Break ups are supposed to be difficult. If they are not difficult, you probably haven’t loved that person hard enough. In most situations, the problem isn’t in the mind, it’s in the heart. I love how the movie is trying to send out that message. No matter how many times you’ve done the procedure, your heart always leads you back to where it belongs. Back to the start.
Aren’t all relationships like that? You were madly in love with that person, and the next day you realize you actually don’t like this, don’t like that, hate this, hate that… And then you argue. And then, one day you think to yourself, maybe you’re not in love with this person afterall, you’re just in love with the feeling of being loved, or loving someone. It’s not the person that matters, it’s the feeling that you want to linger onto.
A friend once told me this, “as you grow old, it’s not what kind of person you want that matters, it’s what kind of person works for you that matters” , and I completely agree with her. You can want a million things, but if they don’t work for you, they are just not right for you.
Clementine might not be the first person Joel would pick as a girlfriend, but they definitely work and that’s all that matters, isn’t it? In the end, we just want someone who would be with us till the very last day.