People desperately want quick fixes.
A couple days ago I find myself having a spitting headache. And immediately, I reached out for a Panadol. Quick, easy, no-brainer. And it’s symptom-specific, ie it deals with what it’s says it deal with – pain.
But as I broke the foil seal, I realise it’s not the pain I should be dealing with, I should be dealing with what is causing the pain, the real reason for the pain. What I need to look for is the cause, not the result. That’s when I notice that for so many things, I’ve only been dealing with the result, not the underlying cause. And honestly, nowadays, how many of us actually fix things, instead of just deal with the consequence? We simply move on too quickly. If your iphone doesn’t work, you’ll get a new phone. If there’s a hole in your shirt, you get a new one. And if your marriage doesn’t work, who cares? You can always get a divorce.
Our generation is just so much different from what our parents’ generation used to be. I still remember the time when my dad would fix everything. He would take upon all the fixing tasks in the house, put on his serious face and get going at it. He installed our TV back then, installed our toilet, fixed numerous furniture, shouldered the responsibility of being our home-designated electrician, plumber and gardener. But that time was long gone. Now nobody I know would even want to fix things. Tailors are obsolete and honestly who cares about fixing that hemline when you can get a pair of new ones with the same amount of money you pay a tailor to do it?
Is the root of the problem about economic efficiency, rendering everything available at such a cheap price that there’s no point in putting the effort into fixing a problem, and it’s more economical just to get a brand new replacement?
I’m just praying to lord that one day I don’t feel like that about family and relationships. I hope one day I’m not the one who’s calling quits on something that doesn’t work anymore without even trying to make it work.